I just had an AMEN moment after reading this phrase: “We’ve found a way to chronically anesthetize our kids.” In regards to constantly feeding a smartphone to our children…this statement is so, so true!!!!!!
Warning: I’m in a “mood.” Bear with me as I vent about kids with iPads in restaurants. If it isn’t already obvious, I’m not a fan. And, yes, I get a little judgy. If you know me personally, you know that this is so much more than just about kids blaring a device at a restaurant. It’s about how this society has degraded sharply–no one has any manners or consideration for others anymore. (a.k.a. “NO SHAME!”) But that’s another topic for another time.
Anyway, parents…do you not understand that it is unrealistic to expect your 2-year-old to sit through an adult meal? Yes, it’s so much easier to keep these little ones quiet-ish and busy on a device…but that’s just the point! If you want to enjoy an adult meal, then maybe bringing your toddler isn’t the most fun idea for you or your child. Even if you go to a “family” restaurant…I don’t know about you, but I rarely took Ilona out to a restaurant when she was a toddler, and as she grew older, she was taught that there are certain expectations and appropriate behavior. These days, whenever I see an iPad on a table, I’m not seeing much parenting happening either. (The only exception would be for special needs children.) I know I’m not alone here.
A snippet from a HuffPost entry sums it up:
If it isn’t an iPad propped on a table, it’s a DVD player in the car or an iPod in the doctor’s waiting area or a game played on mom’s cellphone in the pick-up line at the pharmacy. We’ve found a way to chronically anesthetize our kids, and it isn’t done to make them happy — even though that’s what they say they wan. It’s done to mitigate our short-term discomfort. Nobody wants to hear their kid whine. And nobody wants to get the death glare from the other passengers on the plane. But we’re just delaying dealing with the problem. Teachers wonder why their students can’t sit through an entire history lecture; it’s because they’ve never had to.
- from “iPads in Restaurants: Rude or Great Parenting?” by Charlotte Hilton Andersen
- Read: http://ow.ly/jIR0300GoNg
p.s. Just so you know, I am totally guilty of pulling out my device at restaurants, but never for an extended period. The volume is also on low so that I, too, may avoid getting a death glare from other patrons.